I just learned a lesson: Think carefully, very carefully, before you comment, especially using WordPress. To be honest, I usually do think carefully. I choose my words, choose how I say it, decide if I really have something to add (advice counts), and if it is really a post worth commenting on (sometimes, it is not). Sometimes, though, I get a little too personal, or a little too carried away. Or, I did not read enough of the blog to realize that the person in question is not open to hearing what I have to say. The problem with WordPress? You cannot edit or delete your own comment (unlike Blogger), unless it is on your own blog. Sheesh.
So, from now on, before I comment, I will think five times, I will edit five times, and I will ask polite, respectful, politically correct Yitzchak to approve my comment. As most of you have probably guessed from some of the opinions that I express on this blog, “Politically Correct” is far from being my middle name.
I ask any of you who did not like my comment on your blog, or who took offense, to please forgive me, let me know, and feel free to delete the comment. In fact, please do delete it. Who knows? Maybe I would have pressed “edit” or “delete” myself, if I were using Blogger.
Maybe this is what it means, “Think before you speak.” I always thought, “Yeah, I think before I speak. But if I decided to say it, then I think it has to be said. And if you don’t like it – well, who said you have to like everything I say, or even agree with it?”
So, maybe what I said, or wrote, did need to be said or written. Maybe it really did. But maybe it did not have to be written to a specific person. I suppose, that is why I have my own blog; and as it is often said, things need to be done “b’ofen hamitkabel”, in a way that will be accepted by the receiver. If it will not be accepted, then forget it. This is hard for me to swallow, oftentimes.**
So, I apologize again to any and all of you whom I have offended (hopefully not too many), and please remember that I say things because I feel they need to be said and heard; you are never, ever required, or even asked, to publish a comment that you do not like. Especially if you do not like it, or it insults you. Because in most of those cases, and especially if comments are moderated and you do not have a contact page, I meant the comment for one set of eyes only. And, if I insulted you, please let me know.
Please take my poll! Thank you.
*This post, while prompted by a specific comment that I recently made, is not only about that one comment. I have made at least three comments that I afterward wanted to delete or edit, none of them on the same blog.
**(Politically correct, nice, Yitzchak did not like this part, and wants me to omit it, but I feel that it is necessary to my readers’ understanding of where I am coming from and what I
have learned am learning. Tell me if he is right.) After all, I accept any and all criticism, think about it, and often act on it. Why shouldn’t everyone else? Because “everyone else” is not me. And while that may be important to me, and a strong point for me, as well as a point of pride, not everyone can do it. And it is not fair to hold everyone else up to my own personal standards, especially since different people have different strengths and weaknesses.