I’ve decided, or maybe realized, that there is one major test of character. It’s probably one of the best tests, and one of the only that gives an accurate, true, result.
You can judge a person’s character by four things:
- How unreasonable their demands are;
- how much they badmouth their ex-spouse (in court and in the community);
- how nastily they fight in court.
And by looking at those three things, you can get a pretty accurate idea of who’s the victim, who’s the perp, and what kind of people both spouses are.
Then there’s a fourth factor, one that isn’t applicable to most divorcees:
4. if they choose not to fight at all, and in that case – who gets everything.
That, I already don’t know what to say. Because if one spouse chooses not to fight, there’s no fight. And then the question is, who got everything, *who* chose not to fight, and what their motivations were. Choosing not to fight is either strength of character, or just being chicken. If there are kids involved, it’s either protecting them from an ugly fight, or abandoning them.
Honestly, I don’t know. Luckily, most divorcees don’t just give everything to the other side, no questions asked.
The problem with this test of character?
Not all people are divorced.
Well, that’s not really a problem. It’s a blessing. But the divorce test obviously doesn’t work on those who have never divorced.
I realize that there are some holes in my theory. And still, overall, I think it’s a good rule of thumb.