Okay, let’s get two facts straight:
- Moms are given preferential treatment by courts and society.
- Moms don’t always deserve that special treatment, and often abuse it.
That’s it, folks.
Not every dad is abusive. Not every mom is a great mom.
Many moms misuse their privileges in order to hurt the dad, control the children, or vindicate themselves.
It’s much more common to see single moms with kids than single dads with kids. And not because the dads aren’t good enough. But because the moms didn’t play fair.
Let’s give dads a fair chance, and not give moms preferential treatment just because they happen to have two X chromosomes.
Sometimes the kids really are better off with Dad than with Mom. Like, in at least 50% of the cases.
And sometimes both parents are equally abusive . . . so why give Mom preferential treatment?
Have you ever heard of Mom paying child support, or do only dads have to pay child support?
It’s time to stop being feminist and start being fair.
And asking a divorcing mom who wants to take her kids to a different country if she is *allowed* to do so is a very, very, legit question.
Parents can and do kidnap their own children.
That’s why, in order to get U.S. passports for our kids, Yitzchak and I either have to BOTH be at the consulate, or one of us has to sign in front of a notary. Heck, we’d have to do it here, too, except that in our little hole, everyone is family and rules often slide.
Yes, *even though* we are married. Because, well, who knows? Maybe we separated and didn’t inform the government, and one of us is trying to take the kids from the other. Like we would . . . but the government can’t know that if we ever *did* decide to divorce, we’d figure it out between ourselves and do what’s best for the kids, no ego-boosting ugly court scenes necessary. (Perhaps that’s why we’re not planning to divorce anytime soon – because we have the maturity to work things out? Gee, what’s maturity, anyways?)
Don’t ask for help getting a single mom settled in a new country, if you can’t stomach people asking if she is allowed to take her kids out of her home country.
It’s a legit question.
Because no one wants to aid a kidnapping.
Because we all know that single parents equate custody with not being the guilty party in the divorce. Because kids are a prize, right?
Can we PLEASE stop giving moms preferential treatment? Please??